Are you single, or have you been single sometime in the distant past? If you have, then you know you have to think about the things that you want in a relationship.
For the past 12 years, I have been single again. I have dated some, but nothing has ever become serious. I haven’t had a serious relationship since I’ve been divorced.
When I met my ex-husband, I thought I knew what I wanted. I thought he was a good guy with the qualities I was looking for, but, of course, sometimes life makes you do funny things, right?
However, this time, I’m being more picky about the type of guy I’m looking for. I don’t want to go through what I did in the past. And I want to find true love this time.
In order to make sure I don’t stray from the kind of guy I want, I decided to make a list of the things that I’m looking for in a relationship. It helps me focus on what I want and what I don’t want.
So what am I looking for in a relationship?
1. Respect
First and foremost, I want somebody who will respect me. I didn’t have that in my past, in particular, with one guy. I want someone who will respect my opinions, my thoughts, and, of course, me.
This is the most important trait to me. If there is no respect, then the relationship won’t work.
2. Good communicator
I want someone who will communicate with me. I don’t want guy who won’t share his thoughts, opinions, and visions of the future. I want someone who openly communicate with me and share those things.
Where does he see us in a year? Where does he see us in five years from now and in ten years from now?
3. Fun/humor
I want a guy I can have fun with. I want a guy who I can laugh with, someone who laughs at funny movies or funny things that happen. I want somebody who makes me laugh. I need a guy who will cheer me up and make me laugh when I’m feeling down or having a bad day.
I want someone who wants to go out have fun, like go to a movie or a concert or go hang out at the beach. I don’t want a guy who wants to work all the time even on the weekends or not enjoy life. Life is too short not to have fun and enjoy it.
4. Honesty
I want an honest guy. Even if he thinks I won’t like what he says, he needs to be honest with me. He needs to tell me what he’s thinking and what’s going on. Secrets have no place in a honest relationship.
If he doesn’t like something that I’m doing, then he needs to be honest and tell me. This trait goes quite well with the good communicator trait that I mentioned above.
5. Best friend
I want to guy who is my best friend. I have never had a guy, who has made me feel like we are best friends.
I want a guy that I can stay up with until one or two o’clock in the morning and talk about anything and everything. I want a guy who I can tell my deepest darkest secrets to and know those secrets will be safe.
6. Priority
I want to guy who makes me a priority. He doesn’t have to put me on a pedestal, but I want to be at the top of his list in his life, not someone who lives with him and does the housework.
The guy is someone I can count on if I need something done or need help dealing with something. I need to know he’ll be there by my side for support.